Start here to learn the basics of parenting in the digital age.
Today’s children and teens do not know a world without digital technology, but the digital world wasn’t built with children’s healthy mental development in mind. We need an approach to help children both on and offline that meets each child where they are while also working to make the digital spaces they inhabit safer and healthier.
Dr. Sandy Chung, President,
the American Academy of Pediatrics
Experts suggest holding off as long as possible to introduce social media to your child – while it depends on the child, waiting until age 16 is a common recommendation. Consider giving your child a “dumb phone” or a smartphone alternative, and talk to other parents about taking the pledge to delay social media access.
Engage in open discussions with your child about the risks and responsibilities associated with social media. Address issues like privacy and social comparison – and feelings of depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem that may arise.
Discuss how much time – as well as when and where – your child spends on social media and set appropriate limits together. Research shows that more time on social media is associated with a higher risk of negative mental health outcomes. Encourage healthy, offline activities such as sports, time outdoors, and quality time with friends and family.
Take advantage of in-app and phone settings to set age-appropriate content filters, time limits, and safety features for your child.
Encourage your child to share their online experiences, concerns, and questions with you. Practice “trust, but validate” by following their social accounts. Approach conversations with patience and care - this will help create trust and allow you to provide the support they need..
Create rules, including screen-free zones and schedules. For example no phone in bed after lights out; 1 hour of social media per day; no phone at dinner or during homework. Work with your child to create a family media plan to promote healthy habits and their sense of responsibility.
Follow the rules outlined in your family media plan. Share with your children how and why you personally use social media.
Dr. Stuart Ablon, a Child & Adolescent Psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital, teaches you this evidence-based approach for having a successful conversation about social media with your kids.
The science behind why apps like TikTok, Instagram, and Snapchat impact your child’s brain in a different way than your adult brain.
